When preparing to move home your schedule is filled with so many tasks such as dealing with estate agents and solicitors, changing the address for your utility providers, finding a removal company, packing, collecting packing materials and with so much else to think about, it’s easy to forget how you’ll feel when the dust has settled in your new home.
Feeling unsettled after moving house (known as separation anxiety or relocation depression) is a common issue when moving home that can have a detrimental effect on your mental health. In this blog, we’ll explain what it is, how to recognise the symptoms and what you can do to tackle it.
What is Feeling Unsettled After Moving House?
It’s a feeling of depression, sadness and stress that can overwhelm you after moving home into a new property. In the majority of cases, the feeling first occurs after moving into the new home either straight away or after a few weeks, but it’s not uncommon to occur pre-move. These feelings can persist for months and in worst cases, it can last for years, even if it’s a local, national or international move.
Relocating is like closing a chapter and moving on to the next stage of life. But it’s not just a case of leaving the physical home itself, it’s the relationships built up with people within the area over time and not being close to them can feel like a break of a close connection with a possible painful goodbye.
The reasons this happens is subjective and different for most people but the most common issue is the loss of a familiar environment and feeling disconnected from friends and family who lived in a close radius to your old home. You might feel you’re losing a support network. Although it might be easier to deal with this feeling if you’ve got a partner and children moving with you, relocation depression could still have an impact on your mental health.
There are many symptoms that can highlight feeling unsettled after moving house and they overlap with other forms of depression and anxiety and we’ve compiled a list of possible indicators for you.
- Loss of Appetite and Weight Loss
- Lack of Energy
- Change in a sleep pattern – either Insomnia or too much sleeping
- Not leaving your new home for long periods which could result in Cabin Fever
- Unwilling to socialise or do daily activities that were common at your old home.
- Unable to concentrate
These could be just some symptoms that you may be experiencing and if you fall into any of these categories, it’s essential to be honest with yourself and not to deny you may have an issue and pretend you’re ok. After all, the first step to dealing with the relocation depression is to recognise you have it and only then you can plan what steps you’ll need to take in order to tackle it.
How To Tackle It?
Before we list many techniques that can help you combat feeling unsettled after moving house, it’s good to talk about the mindset. Instead of dwelling on your old home and the happy memories with friends and family, you should embrace your new surroundings and what it has to offer.
2 – New Routine:
If you’re lucky, your old routine will work at your new home but for most people, this won’t be the case. You should establish a new routine to give yourself a new daily or weekly timetable. Maybe you enjoyed a takeaway at the weekends or helping out at a local charity and there’s no reason why you can’t continue doing those things.
3 – Hobbies
Beginning a new hobby or taking up old hobbies is a great way to reduce stress and depression by allowing your mind to focus on things you enjoy. Take up a cooking class and master your favourite dish or learn an instrument. If you have a garden, it will surely need some attention and you can create a little piece of paradise for yourself.
4 – Keep in Touch with Friends & Family
This is arguably the most important method when trying to cope with feeling unsettled after moving house. It’s as simple as picking up the phone and giving them a call, text and video call using WhatsApp, Skype or Zoom. Be completely honest about your feelings and they’ll help you to adjust.
5 – Explore Your New Surrounds
Exploring any new area or city is fun and exciting and it should be a top priority to get out of the house that has been making you feel trapped. Perhaps try new restaurants, explore the local museums or art galleries, landmarks, or simply have a walk in a local park with your dog, if you have one. Search on Trip Advisor for things to do and you could be pleasantly surprised with how much the new area has to offer.
6 – Home Renovation
If you’ve bought a place that’s a fixer-upper, getting started on repairs or moulding the property into your perfect home is a great way to keep your mind occupied. You can also learn new skills such as plastering, laying floors, installing a new bathroom etc…If you feel those jobs are left to the professionals, get on with planning the new home design, deciding on new furniture or a simple task like painting the walls a new colour can make a huge impact on the overall feel of the place.
7 – Stay Healthy
Exercise and healthy eating is one of the best ways to alleviate stress and depression. You could finally join a gym that has been on your to do list for years and it’s an opportunity to meet new people from the area or go for a run in the local park. However, it’s not just physical health you should focus on. Meditation can calm the mind and help you to relax. Try this in the morning before breakfast and maybe combine it with yoga.
We hope the blog has helped you understand why feeling unsettled after moving house might be causing your depression and how to tackle it.
Disclaimer – This blog should only be viewed as a guide. Macro Removals Ltd cannot be held responsible for any injuries, loss of earnings, or death as a result of following this guide.